CLUB Q- Queer resilience, chosen family and change I know many of you, like me, are devastated by the recent acts of violence targeting a Queer club and community space in Colorado Springs. Thankfully my close friends who are part of that community were not present at the event. Itโs hard to know how to express the range of emotions I/we feel right now. But, for what itโs worth, a couple things are on my mind. One- however you plan to spend the upcoming โholidayโ which has roots in colonial violence while also the capacity to bring together chosen family via โfriendsgivingsโ, many people may find themselves in social or family dynamics that are difficult, even unsafe. If you have Queer people in your family, please consider ways to make them feel loved and seen. And take this opportunity to open your mind or educate yourself regarding internalized (or externalized) homo/queer/transphobias you might be holding. It needs to be healed. If youโre a Queer person within a conservative family, do what you can to prioritize your own well-being and know that I commiserate with the struggle. And all of us who benefit from colonial injustices- may we unpack how and why we honor this holiday, educate ourselves, make donations to the people whose lands we live on, change the traditions that have become habit, but donโt serve healing or growth- this might look a bit different for everyone. Second, Iโll say that I feel so proud of the bravery and resiliency of Queer community - that individuals present at Club Q were able to take action to protect their own, shutting down the gunman safely and affectively, thus preventing further injury and death. It shows people in this country whose methods for protection are really working and whose arenโt (ahem, officers who repeatedly fail to protect the vulnerable from loose cannon conservative bigots with assault weapons, even when they have a record of violence.) However you spend your time over the next week, I hope it is generative, reflective and nourishing. Please take care of one another!
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